Jennie Baker Photography/Courtesy of WBUR Dear Sugars, I’m nearing my mid-40s and hitting my milestones pretty much on mark: bifocals, slower physical recovery, nocturnal bathroom visits and now, gray hair. I’m accepting most of this, well, because I have no choice. One of these items is a choice, though: what to do about the gray hair. I’m not a particularly vain person and the slippery slope of coloring doesn’t appeal to me because of the cost, hassle and upkeep. I don’t like the telltale gray at the scalp and I think it’s weird when people stop coloring suddenly and go completely gray. helpful resourcesThe gradual, natural transition to gray seems much more appealing. That said, I don’t want to accelerate from “young for my age” to getting asked for the senior discount. My question is: Could you help me sort through the personal and societal aspects of gray hair and give some advice on how to be at peace with whatever route I go? I know this isn’t the heart-rending conundrum you usually address, but it’s my personal conundrum. If I were gray in my 20s, the choice to color would be easy (I’d do it!). But at what point do you accept the gray as something you’ve earned rather than something to hide?
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